How to connect with the deceased through dreams

When I was a hospice grief counselor, I often met clients who dreamed of their deceased loved ones.

For most of them, the experience had a healing effect on their lives and gave them comfort.

For others, though, the dreams were nightmarish. These people had witnessed the decline of their loved one and consequently had unfinished business that left them feeling hopeless and depressed.

Dreams like this are called Visitation Dreams.

They are a universal phenomenon and when you know how to work with them, they have the potential to completely heal grief and restore hope.

So in this post I’m going to show you how to invite your deceased loved ones to visit you in dreams.

And then how to work with those dreams so you can move through the darkness and into peace.

Dreams are a road map for healing

Witnessing the death of a loved one is one of the most profound, and sometimes tragic, human experiences.

For those of you who have lost a loved one, you probably know what this means. It is an experience you had not asked for and it is certainly life changing.

Sometimes there is a lot of guilt, shame and even rage tied to a person’s death, often in the form of “unfinished business.”

When I work with hospice clients they often share stories about the trauma of bearing witness to their loved one’s physical, emotional and mental decline. Perhaps the illness, like cancer, spread to the brain, or because of medications, change the moods and personality.

As a result, loved ones might get hostile, scream and curse at the family. Other times it’s a dramatic physical decline when the patient can no longer walk, talk or engage with the family and the family feels helpless.

Sometimes there are suicides or ‘deathbed confessions,’ leaving the loved one confused, upset and betrayed with many more questions that are left unanswered.

Even just bearing witness to a “peaceful” or “ideal” transitioning can be difficult because we don’t want to let the person go.

Because the bereaved are often trying to cope with the reality of the death, their dreams often reflect this. Dreams of this nature might not always be comforting. They might even come in the form of a night terror in which the bereaved wakes up in a cold sweat and panic, with no memory of the dream. Or dreams may come in the form of nightmares, recollecting the time of the illness and death or just the emotional intensity of the loss.

But here’s something most people don’t know:

All dreams, even scary dreams, are part of the healing process. tweet this

Knowing how to work with them can be the difference between suffering through nightmares or travelling through the darkness and finding light at the end of the tunnel.

In other words, dreams are a map that can lead a grieving person through their journey toward healing, helping them explore all of their complex feelings and experiences in a safe and empowering way.

Dreams give people something to hold onto in the face of the Unknown.

And that’s good dream medicine.

What are visitation dreams?

A visitation dream is the experience of the dead visiting us in our dreams. This could be in the form of an in person visitation, a verbal message (simply hearing someone say “Hello”), a sensation or even through an animal or another form.

This experience also includes dreaming of those who are in the ‘transitory state’ between life and death and the dreams and/or visions of the dying themselves. Reverend Patricia Bulkeley and Kelly Bulkeley collaborated on an extraordinary book in Dreaming Beyond Death: A Guide to Pre-Death Dreams and Visions citing cases during Patricia’s time working in hospice. In many reports, the dying patient not only dreamed of dead relatives but actually saw them in the room in a form of lucid visions, welcoming them to another realm.

Overall, many people have reported healing effects after having a visitation dream, especially if the dreamer needs comfort and/or is questioning faith.

Dreams of making sense of the reality of the loss

Most often dreams are a reflection of how the bereaved felt about their loss and are trying to make sense of it. Here are some examples:

I see my husband but he is talking and smiling and laughing with friends. I call to him but he doesn’t hear or pay attention to me. I wake up angry at him.

I see my mother suffering as she was in the hospital. She has a plastic bag over her face and she is struggling to breathe. I try to remove the bag but then I wake up.

I am being chased by zombies. One of the zombies is my brother. I am terrified , confused and sad that he has turned into one of them.

Dreams can bring messages

Many of my clients have shared that they had wished they had spent more time with their loved ones or had said goodbye, which is why ‘Message dreams’ can be especially potent and healing.

Patricia Garfield writes beautifully of this in her book Dream Messengers:

You can also expect a “Goodbye” dream message to be delivered when you have been deprived of a chance to say goodbye in person. Sometimes people claim this message arrives in a waking state, with the deceased appearing at the foot, head, or side of the survivor’s bed. This dream message is often thought to involve extrasensory perception, as the dream may occur simultaneously with the death. In parapsychological writings, it is the most commonly reported telepathic experience and is referred to as a “crisis apparition.”

Here are some reports of “goodbye” dreams:

He looked just like he was before he got sick. He was smiling and told me he loved me. That smile! I nearly melted. I woke up feeling wonderful but missing him. I was afraid I would only remember him when he was sick. It was a comforting dream.

It was like she was in the room with me. I could literally feel her presence. I told her everything I wanted to tell her when she was alive and it was like a weight had been lifted. I knew she had heard me and that she loved me no matter what. All the hurt and betrayal washed away.

Ways to connect with deceased loved ones

In The Dream Messenger: How Dreams of the Departed Bring Healing Gifts, Patricia Garfield, PhD. writes, “Regardless of your beliefs about whether there is an afterlife or not, one thing is certain: you will dream about the person who has recently died.”

It’s important to know that you may not always remember these dreams. If you want to remember or encourage such dreams, you can try dream incubation (mentioned below).

How we grieve is as unique as a fingerprint, so finding ways to connect with deceased loved ones can take time. Here are a few suggestions to help with your practice:

First, engage the process. In my experience as a grief counselor, I have noticed that the more engaged a person is in the healing work, the deeper the healing can take place.

This includes getting support from family and friends as well as professionals who specialize in the field of grief. If you or someone you know is grieving, I suggest finding your local hospice/palliative care or community counseling services that offer individual and group counseling or a local dream counselor to work with dreams.

Because we are a society that has difficulty with death and dying, it is important to be educated about it. But also be gentle with the process. It can be a raw , vulnerable and terrifying place often described as a dark forest, a black hole, or a wilderness.

Dreamwork can help the bereaved move beyond this place. Here is what I suggest:

  • Incubate a dream.  This can be done in a few ways. Before bedtime, set an intention like “I wish to see my mother in my dreams tonight” or even pose a specific question that you wish answered by the deceased. You can write it on a piece of paper and place under your pillow or repeat the intention while adding strong emotion to it before falling asleep. Be sure to write the dream down when you awaken by keeping a pen and pad by your bed. NOTE: Be mindful before inviting in energies like asking for guidance and protection.  Robert Moss in his book, The Dreamer’s Book of the Dead: A Soul Traveler’s Guide to Death, Dying, and the Other Side, gives excellent advice on how to incubate dreams safely and effectively.
  • Hold a photograph or a memento that carries lots of energy and memory and allow whatever experience to arise. This practice is especially helpful if you have trouble sleeping and can’t recall dreams.
  • Look for signs. It could be a person that looks like your loved one, a song on the radio or even smells! I once was cooking a meal my grandmother made for me as a child. All of a sudden, I could smell her scent wafting in the room as if she was cooking right next to me.
  • Research ancestral practices. You might be surprised to find that many cultures honor their dead with specific rituals. For example, in the fascinating book, Dreams that Matter: Egyptian Landscapes of the Imagination, Professor Amira Mittermaier explores dream incubation as practiced in Egypt today.

Overall, be patient.

Visitation Dreams might not appear right away. It may take days, even weeks. They may also come in ways you might not expect.

I’ve heard many stories of animals visiting clients both in dreams and waking life. One client shared that she kept seeing a bluebird come to her window every morning for weeks. It was her mother’s favorite bird and she felt comforted by these visits as if she was being held and watched over by her mother.

You never know how a loved one might visit you in your dream. Trust your feelings and your experience, and remember to ask for help if you need it.

Now it’s your turn…have you had a visitation dream? How did it impact your life? Please share your experience with us in the comments!

About the Author:

Linda believes dreams can transform individuals & bring communities together. Her research, art & therapeutic work run the gamut from spiritual alchemy to ancestral knowledge to altered states of consciousness. SF Dream Research Examiner SF Examiner and Empact Institute

123 Comments

  1. Judy McEnroe September 27, 2012 at 9:59 pm - Reply

    A dear friend committed suicide about 30 years ago. I was shocked and saddened and very angry. I experienced fascinating visitation dreams from him for the next 20 + years, especially around the date of his death. (which happened to be the end of October). The frequency began to slow after a dream where he was selling all of his “belongings” and moving on.

    • Christine Truncale September 28, 2012 at 8:24 am - Reply

      Me too. I had an Uncle who died when I was quite young and had dreams about him through out the years,they were always saying to me: That he was alive still,just somewhere else like he moved far away<3

      • Linda Mastrangelo September 29, 2012 at 1:29 pm - Reply

        Thanks for sharing this about your uncle, Christine. It appears you found resonance with Judith’s comment about moving on. Ther have been many reports of visitation dreams or those who are transitioning themselves that discuss this phenomena. Often images include some kind of threshhold place like a gateway, doorway, that marks the transition to another state. It certainly opens up more questions than answers about life after death.

        • Cheri Diehl April 8, 2014 at 6:03 pm - Reply

          my husband passed away in February of cancer it was a horrible death I was unable to be with him because of surgery and I have been waiting for for a year and a halfI have not been dreaming I had one today where he had come back and we were in a room with a bunch of people and they were trying to help me clean the house and I went to kiss himand he turned away and said he didn’t want to hurt meit was a horrible dream and I woke up crying and really shaken what does that mean

    • Linda Mastrangelo September 29, 2012 at 1:25 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for sharing this, Judith and so sorry for your loss. What a powerful dream trajectory…I appreciate the latter part of selling “belongings” and moving on. I imagine there were shifts in your feelings/experiences around your friend over the years mapped out in these dreams…incredible.

    • Jessica February 9, 2014 at 10:46 pm - Reply

      I had a dream last night. It was my papa who passed away last July. He died because his heart stopped after the doctor messed up in a surgery and went through the wrong thing. I was away with my grandma when it happened. Anyways. The dream was about others not helping their sick grandma and I got upset and made them help. I went back to make sure they were helping and I found my papa. He needed a ride somewhere positive and just wanted to go away somewhere and I had no way to get a car. I felt so so helpless and there was nothing I could do. He was so sad in my dream and the look on his face broke my heart. In my dream I started crying and in the dream I knew he had passed on and still felt helpless. He disappeared and I woke up still crying and I cried for 10 minutes until I could finally gather myself. I’m struggling to sleep now because I do not want to have that dream again. I never wanna see someone I care about in pain.

  2. mary October 30, 2012 at 2:37 pm - Reply

    Our 25 year old son died in a massive rock slide while descending Snowmass Mountain July 24th 2011, shortly after reaching the summit. My husband and I see a grief counselor every 2-3 weeks and she helps us tremendously. I miss our son so much. His talents and graciousness were beyond belief. I have asked the Lord, I have asked the angels and most of all, I ask Sean himself to please come to me. I am so heartbroken. But he has not yet. Unless I am not remembering my dreams. A friend of my husbands’ wife came to me and told me that Sean came to her in a “not asleep” state. She says that she was lying in bed sort of in a transitional phase between resting and sleeping. She said he appeared to her right at her bedside and his mouth was not moving, but spoke to her rather in a telepathic way. He appeared to be about 18 years old. She said that he asked her to give me the message that he is okay and that he loves me. He then began to fade away, but before doing so, his said the words “little lamb.” I don’t know why he would appear to her and not his own mother. I am confused. The only thing that I can think of with the words little lamb are that I may have called him that as a baby. He had a little stuffed animal lamb that has a music box (in which I still have) that plays the song, “Jesus Loves Me.” I brought it to his funeral. Can you give me some help or insight. Thank you.

    • Secret hearts01 August 10, 2013 at 9:32 pm - Reply

      I was asleep and I was in a white room (it has been 5 years since my papa died and I started to think about him more often as I am being haunted) … anyway there he was he was just a silver figure but I knew it was him and he reached his hand out to take me somewhere but when we were an Inch apart I woke up crying with joy.

  3. Linda Mastrangelo November 9, 2012 at 2:00 pm - Reply

    Thank you for your share and so sorry for your loss, Mary. I have sat with clients and friends who have shared their anguish of losing a child likened to losing a part of themselves, a shattering and soul loss that they may never recover. So glad to hear you are getting the support and care from the community. Often because we are in such grief it touches on many aspects of our lives, especially our health, which includes sleep. It sounds like you are struggling to remember your dreams, which is normal for many people but especially the bereaved. I can also understand the mixed feelings of having your friend be visited by your son. There have been cases reported of the departed speaking this way “more telepathically” and sending messages to loved ones to let them know they are okay with specifics like the “little lamb.” We can never be sure why messages come through in these unexpected ways but perhaps this was the best way your son knew how to reach you at this time. As for visitation dreams, there have also been many cases of the bereaved being contacted by the departed years later. In any case, it can be frustrating sitting in the mystery and the unknown. My hope for you is to be gentle with yourself and be open to whatever comes in and continue to get the care you need. And ask for guidance. Sometimes sitting with intentions and incubating dreams, especially before bedtime, over time can bring interesting results. Please keep us posted. Wth blessings from The Dream Tribe.

  4. rivka finkelstein November 13, 2012 at 6:46 am - Reply

    The night my son died at 20 years old almost 4 years ago, I had a dream before i knew of his death. In the dream he was sick in a hospital. His face appeared with some of his hair gone and he had a big smile and told me he was happy and not in pain anymore. He told me that he took pills and was happy now. In the very back of the hospital room there was a tall skinny man with sandy colored hair who wasnt talking, just waiting patiently. When I saw him dead in my basement I was so shocked. I started screaming oh my gosh he told me exactly what happened as he was dying. in my dream!! This has been a comfort for me but I alwas wondered who the person was waiting in the background for him. I have had lots of dreams about him since where he told me things mostly in the first year after his death. I am confused how I know if a dream is an actual visitation or my imagination. He did tell me in a dream that he isnt allowed to always come he has to get some sort of permission to visit….

    • Linda Mastrangelo November 16, 2012 at 3:09 pm - Reply

      What a powerful share, Rivka. I am so sorry for the loss of your son. You ask a question that many of us ponder: “Is this really happening or just a dream?” And “What happens after we die?” These existential questions can haunt us especially when we face the death of a loved one. When I sit with clients, I often ask them what their belief systems are and the felt/intuitive sense of the dreams. And more importantly, what has been transformed/healed by the experience. It sounds like these series of visitation dreams have been a great comfort to you. It’s difficult to sit in the mystery but I would trust in your own experience…there is clearly much wisdom there. It sounds like dreaming is medicine for you. Sending you blessings and please keep us posted.

  5. Catharine Parks December 18, 2012 at 1:34 pm - Reply

    My loved one died twelve years ago after a brief illness and appeared to me shortly afterword in a dream but still looked very ill. Shortly after my sister who has a gift of spirits coming and talking to her had a visitation from him. He told her that he had been trying to get to me in a dream but because of my anger with him, it was blocking him in trying to reach me. She relayed what he revealed to her and with the new knowledge and understanding I was able to let go of the anger and shortly after I had the second dream. In this dream he no longer looked sick, but very healthy and he left me a message. ‘I am fine, all is well, and you can go on with your life’. Needless to say, our strong emotions can hold them back from progressing on the other side, for they stay around us trying to get us to deal with our emotions.

    • Stephanie July 5, 2013 at 10:49 am - Reply

      Catharine, thank you so much for sharing this experience it has helped me with an issue I have been trying to figure out. I had two people who had caused me a great deal of grief in my young life pass away within a year of one another and neither of them ever made the effort to express any sort of remorse or offer of apology before they died. When they died I grappled with the idea that it didn’t matter if I forgave them because they wouldn’t have cared one way or another. But I keep having dreams about them and even though I have asked for God to deal with them instead of them dealing directly with me I have this feeling as though it has to do with me letting go through forgiveness. I’m still trying to figure it all out, but your story has definitely helped, thanks again.

    • Eleanor March 9, 2014 at 4:23 pm - Reply

      My loved one don died of cancer he was told at a hospital pointment he only had 4month a was devasted a cared for him as with mcmillan cancer team but comin up for the 2nd yr in july a still can not come to terms with it my mum died the wk before don 1st anniversary in july mum 20th don 27th july but i wake up lookin for don 3to4. Times a wk an a cant find him a do wish a could have 5 mins with him as he could not say goodbye to me afore he went but a was told at a private bookin that he could not get the words out to me but a still struggle with life without him as a feel 15yr was took from me when a found him the special one for me an everythin was great but a still cant move on can u please help me Eleanor x

      • Eleanor March 9, 2014 at 4:28 pm - Reply

        I dont no where to turn

        • Eleanor March 9, 2014 at 4:29 pm - Reply

          Would like advice thanks

          • Lisa March 16, 2014 at 11:29 am

            hi Eleanor,
            I lost my mother to cancer on 3/12/14 just 2 months after being diagnosed with cancer. My mother had only been gone for 2 days and already come to me in a dream which I found great comfort. Hang in there don will come when he is able to and your healing will begin. Sometimes newly departed souls have steps to take in the afterlife before they can visit but trust me don will find his way to you.

  6. Linda Mastrangelo December 28, 2012 at 4:44 pm - Reply

    I am so sorry for your loss, Catharine and I appreciate you sharing your experience with us. Sharing our stories helps others to heal and open up, as well. I also appreciate your insights on how our emotional state can affect our connections with the loved ones we have lost. It opens up a whole new way of being, especially around belief systems with death. I often hear clients sharing similar stories about how the deceased try to reach them through a third party. Glad to hear your sister was there to support you and relay the message. Thanks again for the powerful share and please keep us posted on future dreams and insights!

  7. Dominica January 3, 2013 at 8:14 pm - Reply

    I have seen her 2 times since she passed of cancer. She is talking but I don’t hear anything. Is this common?

  8. Linda Mastrangelo January 5, 2013 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    So sorry for your loss, Dominica. This is a common experience in visitation dreams. You might appreciate Patricia Garfield’s article on grief and dreams that might shed light on the grieving process: http://www.creativedreaming.org/media-library-2/dreams-of-grief–particia-garfield.pdf. Perhaps in time, the dreams will shift and the message, clearer. Please keep us posted.

  9. Teresa January 15, 2013 at 5:01 pm - Reply

    My fiance of four years committed suicide a year and a half ago. I dreamed of him right after he died, and again about a year later. I have only dreamed of him twice in a year and a half. My dreams had meaning, and were not scary. However my children have all had bad dreams about him where he is a zombie, and he is trying to get in the house or scaring them and chasing them down. He was very close with the kids, he was their stepfather, so I don’t understand why he is scaring them in their dreams.

  10. Clara February 4, 2013 at 11:49 am - Reply

    3years ago this past November my daughters boyfriend of 4years and soon to be engaged to, died in a motorcycle accident. Leaving everyone of us who knew him well wondering what really happened. He was 20yrs old. A week or so after his death, my daughter and two of his best friends had dreams of him. In my daughters dream she asks him, why had he gone to our home on that day, what really happened, why did the police report say he was going fast when that was so unlike him..and other whys. He answered her only this “Shhh, not yet my love.” Then he left. His other friend’s dream was also interesting in that his friend said to him “you know your not in this world anymore” and he answered “yes I know”. Both his friends experienced him in their dreams a little younger and all wet and in a foggy like place. What could the “wet” mean? Anyways I have only dreamed of him once. He had a bag with gifts for us. He handed me a crown and said “thank you”, than he sat down next to me and asked me “how much longer till we are all together?” By the way..dreaming is one of my gifts. I have had many of interesting dreams. Some that come true. And some very lucid dreams that are amazing and vivid.

  11. Carla February 27, 2013 at 5:12 pm - Reply

    Just wondering my mum past away just before Christmas 2012, and have been having dreams of her mainly as I remember her the last months, mum was not very mobile and needed assistance and all the dreams she appears in resembles this either being in hospital me assisting her getting out of bed, helping her walk her holding on to me, taking her to the toilet all the things I was doing this for her. I would like to know what this may mean and what she could be trying to tell me. Thanks

  12. Amy February 27, 2013 at 8:18 pm - Reply

    Three years ago our friend committed suicide. He has appeared to me in dreams several times. This week was the most vivid yet. He was on a shore, lying on or in the sand, from which he rose up and walked out over the ocean water. I waved goodbye to him because I did not want him to feel drawn toward attaching to me–I wanted him to move on. But then the next scene was me seeing him on a tv screen and I was working the dials, trying to “dial in” to get better reception on him! Then we were face to face. He started telepathically giving me this list of words to use, like a code, to be able to communicate with him. I can clearly see the notebook paper I was having my helper write them down on. I only recall 3 of the words: popcorn, tampon, and then this word I had to figure out by filling in blanks like a puzzle and it was “luna”. Then I clearly saw a large, beautiful moth. It was a luna moth but was brown. The I kissed his cheek and he felt very alive. He told me he was content. There wasn’t a sense of great happiness, but he was ok. It was all very vivid and real.

  13. Linda March 20, 2013 at 3:21 pm - Reply

    My husband of 43 yrs passed away 2 mos ago after a long illness bit his death was still not expected. I had a dream in which I could see him a little bit younger I asked him (not sure of exact words) “am I losing you” or “have I lost you.” I don’t think he responded as I woke up. The dream has been bothering me the past few days. Can you give me some insight to this dream.

    Thank you

    • MATA February 1, 2014 at 12:15 am - Reply

      After my break up, I sat in my bed all day, every day. I cried constantly I actually started to Google ways to get over a broken heart, and that’s when I found your email I just wanted to thank you so much for your help. It has gotten me through a lot, and I appreciate it immensely thank you for bringing my husband back to me and our kids thank you drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com you are truly a blessing.

  14. Sharron VonKrusze April 7, 2013 at 7:19 am - Reply

    My live in boyfriend died unexpectedly in June of 2004 of a massive heart attack. He was putting a roof on with his friends across the street from where we lived at his mothers house, I witnessed his death from the ground and I tried several times to attempt to climb the ladder to get to him but I couldn’t. He was dead when the EMTs brought him down. A while after his death as I lay on our bed he came to me. He laid down beside me and we never said a word to each other and within a few minutes he was gone. I know that I was not sleeping, it was not a dream, he was there. What does this mean. I dream of him all the time and I always remember the dream. My Mom and Dad are also both deceased and I dream of them all the time. This is driving me crazy because I miss them all so much and I don’t know what these dreams mean. I never got to tell my boyfriend how much I loved him or to tell him good bye. In all our 7 years together he never told me he loved me but I know he did in all the wonderful things he did for me. I once bought him a balloon for his birthday to put on his grave but when I walked out of the store the balloon was grabbed from my hand and was carried up to the sky and disappeared into the clouds. I really need help, I can’t live not knowing why these things are happening. I have often thought that I want to be where he is and I truly want to believe that I will be with him again and I need to know if he is happy where he is and if he misses and thinks about me like I do him. Please help me.

    • ranell June 15, 2013 at 3:31 pm - Reply

      Sharron I can really relate to what you been through I loss the love of my life this sunday and it hurt so much I feel like life is being sucked right out of me I been trying to dream about him talk to him yell cry out to him to god asking for a sign that he ok something but nothing has happened I saw him in one dream it was even a long dream I had a runny nose in this dream and he came down stairs and said so now I got you sick smiled and want back up stairs is that tell me he want where he was suppose to go with his dad it just hurt so much I want him here with me and I know he cant how do I get through this someone please tell me how

  15. laurie April 9, 2013 at 10:11 am - Reply

    my lil brother commited suicide in 1996. it was so devastating. i had 2 occurances in volving his presense shortly after his death. since i have only had faint feeling of his presense and sometimes his emotions. last night was the first time i had a very vivid dream of holding him sitting on a couch and crying as i was so happy to be with him and cause i missed him so much. im left with feeling great sadness again as i want him back. do you think he was actually visiting me in my dream?

  16. michele April 18, 2013 at 3:35 pm - Reply

    The day my mother passed, I woke with a sudden start feeling like someone had just punched me in the stomach and knocked the wind out of me. As I lay there wondering what the heck just happened, trying to fall back asleep, the phone rang telling me to come right away. I believe that feeling was my mother passing. A month later I dreamt of her for the first time. We were walking together and she was telling me she needed to clean out the dresser drawers so I told her ok let go I’ll help you. We came to a set of stairs that had a landing every ten steps or so, and then the stairs would turn to the left and another set of stairs and a landing. On each landing there was a dresser. We walked up the first set of steps and I paused at the dresser and began opening the drawers to organize and clean them out. I could hear my mother saying something and I said to her ” Ok mum, I’m coming I was just checking this one first. When I turned, she was at the top of the next flight of stairs looking down at me and she said ” me and him….me and him” and pointed to go up the stairs. She turned and started up without me and I woke without a move. I could feel just my eyelids slowly open to wide awake. I had a gush of relief and calm come over me. I instantly knew my mother had just come to me in a dream, and I was relieved because I had been so worried about where she was. I have smelled the flowers from her garden from time to time and it’s always unexpected. Every month the week leading up to her death I become extremely emotional. And as the anniversary of the day of her death passes, I feel completely normal again. She visited me again in a dream and this time my father was there too ( he is still living ). We were on a vacation somewhere and he kept going off somewhere and doing something and I was very upset and was crying and telling her how sad I was. She told me to ask her questions. So there I was crying and her encouraging me to keep going I ask questions and she would answer. I can’t remember all the questions or answers. One I asked between the tears if she knew what was happening to her and was she afraid and she replied she did know and yes she was afraid. I did not wake from that dream sad really but with more of a feeling of ” one step closer” which is bizarre. I hope my mum continues to visit me in my dreams, it’s almost like it takes a weight from my shoulders because I know where she is.

    • Maggie May 24, 2013 at 5:43 pm - Reply

      Michele, your posting brings me relief and hope. My mother passed in Christmas morning after suffering a second major stroke. After her first stroke, in October, my mother lost control of the left side of her body. My mother could do almost nothing on her own, yet worked so hard everyday to regain mobility. Through extensive physical and occupational therapy, she was on to road to recovery. As time passed and she became more homesick, she would call me throughout the day and beg me to take her home. I visited her everyday and I loved her very much, it broke my heart each time that I had to explain that she wasn’t ready and I couldn’t take care of her by myself. We have no family nearby, it was just me and mom. It was early in the morning on Dec 21 when I got the phone call that my mom was having another stroke. The nurse asked me if I wanted to talk to her. It has been five months since then and i still regret saying “just get her to the hospital and I will see her there”. When I got to the hospital, my mom was in a coma that she never woke up from. The days that followed where the worst days of my life. This time the bleeding in her brain had done so much damage that she would have remained in a vegetative state, so I made the decision to take her off life support for fear that she may be able to feel the discomfort of all of the tubes that she was attached to. She hung on for almost 24 hours after that. I went home to take a shower and got a call from the doctor stating that she was gone. I have so many regrets, but my biggest regret is not taking her home when she asked. Had I known that all of her hard work was going to be for nothing, I would have found the means to let her spend the last months of her life at home. I’m glad that I was able to tell her so much while she was in a coma. But most importantly, I told her that it her grandson and I were going to be okay. That she did a great job as a mother and we would be okay in time. I told her that she didn’t need to fight anymore. I have spent my time since feeling a mixture of emotions, a lot of them anger and regret. I have begged her to come to me in my dreams over and over again. Then when I least expected it, today I dreamt that she was here at home with me. It was almost as if nothing had ever happened. I carried on like normal. I remember folding clothes when I remembered. Just as I thought that maybe her death may have been a dream, my mom came and stood watching me in the laundryroom doorway. I started to cry and went to her and said, “Mom, I think you died.” She smiled and noded with tears in her eyes. Then she told me that she was okay. I huged her, then she disappeared. I woke up with feeling of relief, but have since felt kind of down. I am hoping that this experience was just the beginning of these dreams. I have been a somewhat lucid dreamer in the past, but it has been a long time since I’ve actually taken control of a dream. So thank you, Michele, for the inspirational story.

  17. lisa May 14, 2013 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    my boyfriend recently died in my arms a week ago! the cause of his death is still inconclusive and im so upset and angry as we ignored signs of him having chest pains and he would never go to the doctors.he would be 33 tomorrow! he loved us so much he has left his 6 month old daughter behind as well as my 2 daughters he brought up as his own,were all very saddened by his sudden death…..last night he came to me in a dream and we was laying/cuddling on the bed and he was talking to me i said ‘if i wake up will u still be dead?’ he nodded and i said i dont want to wake up then……….then i woke up! what does this mean?

  18. Michelle May 17, 2013 at 10:16 am - Reply

    I lost my dad last December to colon cancer. We did not know he had cancer until 2 days before he passed away. I have 5 brothers and sister and we all had a chance to talk to him by ourselves before he passed. My dad loved each and everyone of us and told us everyday. We all had close relationships with him and each other. I have had only 2 dreams since he has passed. In both of them he seemed mad at me for something and never really talks to me that much. I just had one last night about me getting married. I have never been married and when he passed that is the one thing that I will dried doing now without my daddy there. I looked around and he was sitting by his self and I screamed daddy and ran to him, he put his finger to his mouth and shhh me to be quite but never spoke to me. We hugged and then he just disappeared. When I woke up I felt like he was mad at me. I don’t understand why I feel like this because I was his baby girl and he never got mad at me for anything. I just really don’t understand why this is happening.

  19. Irene Causey May 20, 2013 at 12:10 pm - Reply

    My Mother will not stop dreaming of her lost love ones. The one that hurts her the most is her younger brother. She was gonna go visit him on Monday, to deliver his Christmas gifts with her younger sister. He had passed on a weekend, she found out the day to visit on (Monday).
    This has been over a year now.

    I was told that when one dreams and the dream is still its just a dream, but when one dreams, and the dream is moving (it means that passed loved ones have come to visit you and its reall happening) Is this true? I am always reading on anything to do with the supernatural, but this has baffled me. Please Help!

  20. erin May 24, 2013 at 1:00 pm - Reply

    Please help me understand I had a dream about my grandmother which died 7 years ago. She was hitting my mother and my self. I don’t understand why she would have never done that. Any answers you can give would be helpful

  21. Tracy Walls May 27, 2013 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    My boyfriend passed away September 24th 2009… After his death, for months.. I had dreams about him.. He had 2 strokes, one and then another a week later while he was still in the hospital, from High blood pressure and died at the age of 38. The day before his 39th birthday. All of the dreams I had at first, his stroke always happens but he makes it thru.. Sometimes sick and bed ridden, but himself.. Other times he was just fine full of life.. The dreams have slowed down in the past 3 years but i still have dreams about him about once a month or every other month and it is always me at his grave, sad or crying with my head down or hung low.Asking him why did he have to go?.. I can see him as if it is a glass grave. Sometimes he talks to me, but i very rarely remember the next morning what he said. I can remember exact details from dreams 2 years ago.. And i always see his face in my dreams.. Sometimes i am ok the next day… But most times The dream, even tho I am so happy while dreaming, the next day I can be depressed or quiet.. Recalling the dream the whole day and how much I miss him.

  22. Debbie Cormier May 29, 2013 at 6:52 pm - Reply

    The recurring theme when I dream of my mother is that I am still at her bedside as she is slowly losing her battle with brain cancer. I am trying to help her with her pills, or feed her, or keep her from hurting herself, and so on…Yesterday morning I awoke from a dream that was quite a bit different from the rest. Although my mother was still in the final stages of cancer, this time we were on a plane. There were three of us sitting on a bench up against the side of the plane. My mom to the right of me and a girl holding a shoe box on my left. My mother asked me if I still had the 50 dollars I owed her. My mind raced to try and remember what I had in my wallet. I was afraid I didn’t have enough. At the same time I was worried how I would get through to my next pay without a dime to my name. I was honest and said that I would have to look. I was so releived to discover I had exactly fifty dollars. I took out the fifty dollar bill and said “oh look, I do! I do have it Mum!” as I passed it over to her. She said ” Oh good, now I can give you this.” She passed me over a white, empty french fry bag that she had written a joke on in black marker. I read it and started to laugh and cry. My mom gave the girl on my left the fifty dollars and then the girl handed me the shoe box. I lifted the lid and found it stuffed with very neatly folded socks and underwear. It was always *tradition* to get these from my mom, and I was so touched I burst out crying. I knew it was a dream and that I was never going to get socks and underwear from my mom again. That I was never going to be able to hug her and thank her for all her thoughtful ways again. So I hugged her close and thanked her with all my heart. I woke up crying. Today my mothers sister phoned me. I haven’t spoken with her in almost 2 years since my mothers passing. She told me she dreamed of my mother. She said she was sleeping on her couch when the sound of someone coming in her back door woke her. She propped herself up and peered over the back of her couch to see who was coming in. It was my mother, all dressed up in a red Santa suit, beard and all. She was laughing her head off. My aunt knew instantly that it must be a dream, that my mother was dead, but my mom was laughing so hard it made my aunt burst out laughing. The sound of her own laughing is what woke my aunt. I am so glad she decided to give me a call and share her dream with me.

  23. Marcos Marquez May 29, 2013 at 11:43 pm - Reply

    On March 4,2013 I lost my wonderful Aunt.
    The day of my Birthday.I was heartbroken,depressed,and shocked.
    About 1 month after she had passed I had a dream.In my dream,I was waiting in front of my Grandpas home in my car.As I looked out the window I seen My Aunt(Deceased) walking towards me smiling.in my dream as soon as I seen her I got off the car as fast as I can saying,”Tia(aunt)”.
    I seen her clearly.I knew it was her.As I rushed out of the car,she held her hands up as if she was waiting for me to hug her,and that’s what I did.
    As I was hugging her I told her”Tia(aunt),I miss you and I love you Tia.”
    She said back in a Calm voice,”Oh Mijo(son),I know.”
    Then we let go of each other,and she looked at me smiling saying,”How’s the House?”
    I said back to her “It’s good Tia.”
    Then we began to walk across the street,she was by my side.As I continued to walk she stopped in the middle of the road,and told me she had to “Go” already.So I walked up to her and gave her a hug and said,”Okay Tia,love and miss you.”
    She gave me a Kiss on the cheek and she mentioned something about the Family,but I really don’t remember exactly what she said.as soon as she said “Goodbye” again,I woke up.
    I was so happy and felt calm.Then I began to cry because I missed her.
    When she asked me.”How’s the house”,I didn’t really understand what she ment,until later that day.2 days before my dream,my parents and I looked a Model Homes,and we fell in love with a certain House.After viewing the home,I would constantly tell everyone I know and keep telling myself in my head how beautiful that house was.It was really amazing.I knew she was asking me that on purpose because she knew I was really excited and in love with that house.
    This was overall a Great,inspirational,powerful dream.
    It really impacted my life by giving me Hope,Faith,and a sense of Relief.
    There are days were I do just remember her and cry but I know she is happy and in a better place.
    Thankyou For this article.
    This was really touching.
    #LoveYou #Tia

  24. Sammie May 30, 2013 at 12:26 am - Reply

    My mother passed over one year ago. Devastated my entire family of course. It nearly broke our family a part. My siblings all grieved for days. I believed I cried for the first week but not as much as my siblings. I kinda had that feeling that I knew she was always watching us. During her wake, I could sense her near. That same night, I had a dream about her, she appeared bubbly like she normally was. I remember standing in the living room and I heard her laughing, “Let’s go to WalMart!” I woke up happy and confused at first. I’ve had times where she would drop items to get my attention, I’d be half asleep and she would come to me asking to go somewhere or if I’ve watered my crops (she was Farmville addicted). I have sudden thoughts and images of my grandfather welcoming my mother to the other side and our dog that we put down 3 years prior to her passing. I feel a strong connection with my mothers spirit, dream or no dream. This woman follows me everywhere. She knows I can sense her, I’ll talk to her like she’s here and glance to the sky. And strangely enough, my boyfriend lost his mother as well, and I have dreams with both of them sitting and laughing together. I’m afraid to tell my boyfriend!

  25. Jennifer (uk) May 31, 2013 at 11:34 pm - Reply

    thank you linda for sharing this article; so thoughtfully and sensitively presented which has deepened my understanding of the connection between healing and bureavement and dreaming. i found this the day after an extraordinary dream,featuring my father who passed a year ago; we were not speaking at the time of his death – and in the dream it was clear and obvious that he demonstrates his true caring and loving nature, i have bookmarked this article and will return to it again and again to integrate this and similar dreams
    namaste

  26. Audra June 6, 2013 at 6:40 am - Reply

    I lost my beautiful 22 year old daughter on May 17th. A few days before she died my cousin had a dream that she was a little girl lost in Manhattan – that my ex husband I were frantically searching for her and found her on a subway train on which the doors were shut and we were frantically trying to get her out and save her. My cousin said – there is nothing more you could have done. No parents ever fought as hard as we did to save their child. The train pulled away and my little girl looked out the back window and was perfectly calm and not scared. ~~ I just awoke this morning immediately after I had a dream about her. We were in church but she was not in a coffin – she was on a stretcher, next to her was her infant self who was also appeared to be sleeping but I knew the infant version of her was dead. My daughter (22) rolled over and I looked up at the priest and said, “You see I told you she wasn’t dead.” Then my daughter sat up and spoke to me and she said her conscious mind was here with me and was sad that I am in such pain over losing her but her subconscious mind was somewhere else. I asked if she was happy in that other place and she replied she was. We both cried and I held her and then she fell back to sleep and returned to the other place. At her actual wake I saw a tear in the corner of her eye. I mentioned this to my cousin (the one who dreamed about her) and she said she saw it too thinking that it was my tear that fell on her face. I explained it was not my tear. The next morning the funeral director wanted me to sign the release to allow her cremation and I told him about the tear professing maybe she is just in a coma because dead people don’t cry. The funeral director and my ex both looked at me like I was insane. Reluctantly I signed the authorization form with a trembling hand. I know her wishes were to be cremated but I felt once that was done she can never come back. At the wake I kept saying, “Baby please wake up – they are going to burn you tomorrow.” The physical separation is agonizing for me and I want her back. Since her death there have been many signs from her in an attempt to comfort me – 7 hawks circling over my car on the way to the airport; a calm washing over me on the plane to stop a panic attack on the runway; little blonde haired blue eyed girls who talk to me and ask me if I am okay; songs that remind me of her but the dream last night was what I really needed – to see her physical self; talk to her and hold her in my arms once again.

  27. Betsy June 20, 2013 at 6:58 am - Reply

    I lost my sweet husband 4 months ago through a road accident . He left me with 23months old baby boy . We were madly in love with each other . Ever since he died , he visits me in a dream , and all the dreams i find myself having fun with him . I usually don’t want to let him go. Although i cannot control what iam saying then , i find myself addressing him as he had passed on . He atimes also wants me to have sex with him. I have really enjoyed his company since then , and he has become my companion , and i always long for the day to end so that i can meet with him in my dreams . Is this really alright? as am now used to his visitations that if he misses a night , i really get so mad with him

  28. Melissa June 22, 2013 at 1:42 am - Reply

    Hi,

    My ex boyfriend / fiance passed away a week ago. He was still the love of my life and he still loved me as well, yesterday was the memorial service and last night I dreamt of him, he said he was cold, lonely and sad. What could this mean?

  29. AmyW June 22, 2013 at 11:18 am - Reply

    My first love commited suicide, several years after we last talked and I didn’t get to tell him goodbye. He visited me one night, and I did get to tell him goodbye, and he told me, in my dream that that is why he came to me. Last night I was visited by my great grandfather. I was little when he passed away, and there were other deceased family members there, but the feeling of euphoria, love and happiness that I got from seeing him again! I woke up crying, but it was happiness tears that I saw him and felt him hug me again!!

  30. Courtney June 28, 2013 at 7:43 am - Reply

    Back in March my husband and I went through a miscarriage at 13 weeks. Two nights ago I had a dream that my husband was holding our son, and smiling and laughing. When I finally walked to them I started touching my son’s cheek, and kissing it. I finally looked back up at him and he smiled a large, toothless, beautiful smile at me and touched my hand. I have never felt as wonderful in my life as I did in that dream. But now that I am awake, and remembering the dream, I am angry and sad all over again. Please tell me what this dream means.

  31. Rhonda June 30, 2013 at 5:49 pm - Reply

    My father was my best friend, he had a heart attack on 11-11-11, his health went downhill very quickly. He passed away on 5-11-12, 11 days from my 40th birthday. He came to me awake once and reached for my hand shortly after he passed. In a dream he came to me looking very healthy and in his typical voice and mannerisms he sat down across from me and said “death didn’t win.”
    Since then he has given me several “number” signs. He wanted his ashes spread in the Grand Canyon, after I spread the ashes I picked up my luggage at the bell service of the hotel, the claim ticket was 4872. His birth year 48 and my birth year 72. I know he is with me all the time now from the numbers which happens frequently. I am just curious why I don’t dream about him anymore.

  32. Melinda June 30, 2013 at 7:25 pm - Reply

    I was with my father when he took his last breath, He was cognitive the entire 5 days it took for his organs to shut down. I had very little sleep and none for over 36 hours. That night my daddy and I walked in my dream. He was young, healthy and whore a white shirt and pants that looked almost like terry cloth but much more beautiful than anything I have ever seen. We did not speak but heard eachothers thoughts. I was also younger than I am wearing a soft orange sundress. He held my hand and said “I will walk with you, until you return here with me.” I said. ” Daddy I’m scared, what will I do without you?” He squeezed my hand and said. “All you need to do is think of me, and I am beside you.” I woke crying and just wanted to sleep again so that I could see him. I did sleep again but no dream, I woke rested and refreshed at first, then had a good cry and thought of my Daddy. I got chills and get chills every time I think of him. Tomorrow we will say good bye in the traditional was of a wake. But for me, good bye doesn’t mean forever. I share this dream in Honor of my beloved Daddy <3 Thomas Gordon Hedrick RIP Daddy till I see you again XO

  33. Sarah July 1, 2013 at 5:59 pm - Reply

    In the past I have been very sceptical when hearing stories like this..Until I had the first of two visitation dreams…They were both people I was very close to who died within a year of eachother…My partner came to me at my mothers front door and did not say a word but just sat on the porch and held me..It was such a profound and comforting experience….The second person also came to my mothers house but this time,the gate and he did not speak a word to me either and held me in the same way…They were truly beautiful experiences which left me in no doubt of the afterlifes existence..I have just lost a very close family member and am hoping and praying and asking for her to come to me in a dream…Nothing yet…I had not asked for my previous vvisitations and I hope my anxiety to receive one now isn’t preventing me from being totally relaxed and open to her whilst sleeping.

  34. Samantha July 1, 2013 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    My father passed away from cancer more than five years ago. I have had dreams of him every few months since. Each time, he doesn’t speak, I do. His responses are more ” feelings.” I always start by saying, Dad I miss you. We all miss you. How are you? It is such a feeling of comfort when my Dad “visits” me. Last evening, I had a visit from Dad. It’s just before the holiday and he let me know he is always there. Curious if anyone out there feels as certain when they are visited by a loved one who has passed?

  35. Nupur July 8, 2013 at 2:28 am - Reply

    My grandfather passed away four years back. Recently, I felt that he visited me in my dream. He looked much younger and was very pleasant and happy. I even remember the clothes he was wearing. We both spoke for a long time. I asked him how does he feel? He said he is very happy where he is now. Everything is good here.
    I am a Hindu by religion and as a Hindu we believe in Moksha or liberation. I asked him if he is born again and where does he live now. He said his soul is liberated and he lives with the God.
    He asked me if my grandmother was fine and I thanked him for being in my life and visiting me. After I woke up from my sleep, I felt a sense of joy and happiness which I have never experienced before. Did he visit me or was it just a dream? Can I ask him to visit me again?

  36. simone July 11, 2013 at 2:44 pm - Reply

    august 2004, I answered the worst phone call you could get it was my uncle’s so called girlfriend telling me he was talking about hanging himself so knowing he was only a block away from my house i jumped up and ran as fast as one could only to be greeted at a door slightly ajar in which i somewhat knew right then and there he was gone without help i reacted in a calm very fast way i really cant explain the state of mind i was in other than get him down fast ,seeing he had peed in his pants i knew but my mind was in save mode at this point somehow quickly lifted him up on my toes then ripped the cord off the copper pipe and began trying to revive, swearing and open handed slaps as hard as i could never took that little grin he had on his face almost as if he was free or in proper hands anyways he was already brain dead and on his way to the after life well that was the worst day ever until 3 days later i had a dream he was at my screen door and i recall me being blunt in saying uncle what are doing here you killed yourself to him he looked at me and said wow i really did it closed the screen door and he walk away needless to say i felt i helped him find his path to the other side

  37. tony July 13, 2013 at 10:54 am - Reply

    I lost my dad about 2 years ago and iv had dreams where he would be by my bedside but not say a word and i couldent move. I dident feel a sense of peace or joy i felt twice as sad,hurt. Another dream i saw him in a chair just sitting there dead. Woke up in alot of tears whats all this mean

  38. Tammy Clark July 13, 2013 at 12:36 pm - Reply

    My mother passed away when i was 14 years old. Prior to her death we had some arguments that ultimately lead me to live with my father. But after being there a few months i realized how much i needed my mother and called her to ask her if i could come back. Without hesitation she said yes, then drove the 8hr drive to come get me. From that day on i made sure to tell her how much i loved her and hugged her every chance i got. Our relationship was renewed and she became my best friend. We were literally inseparable. This lasted for 2 months before a brain aneurysm suddenly and unexpectedly took her life.

    That day of the funeral when i went to sleep she came to me in a dream. But it didn’t seem like i was dreaming. As a matter of fact, it was the most real thing i had ever experienced at that time. This is what i remember of the “dream”.

    I was in my nightgown in a dark room of clouds, it was very foggy. I was kneeling in front of a concrete pew with my head covered by my arms, crying because she had died. Then i looked up and there she was. She was wearing the gown she was buried in. It was a beautiful baby blue silk and chiffon full length gown and robe. She floated into the room holding the hand of a man with long white hair who wore a white robe with a gold sash. His eyes were glowing red and the look on his face was stern. But she looked radiant, happy, and peaceful. He said, “Go to her”. And she floated to where i was knelt and knelt down beside me. She took me in her arms and i held on for dear life and just cried and cried. We had a long talk some of which i remember. She told me it wasn’t my fault and that it was just her time to go. She said everything is going to be alright and that she would see me again. She told me she loved me and told me to look out for my younger sister. I told her i loved her to and promised to look out for sis. It was then when i heard the man tell her “It’s time to go”. She then stood up and floated backwards to where he stood, never taking her loving eyes off of me. I Screamed “NO! NO! Don’t go mamma, Please don’t leave me!” Then she took his hand and they floated off into the darkness, enveloped by clouds. It was then when i awoke to the sound of my own sobs and realized that my cheeks were wet with tears and how that experience seemed so real to me.

    My little sister was asleep next to me and had awoke to my yelling and was crying too when i woke up. I told her that i just had a visit from mamma and she said that she too got to see her again in almost the same exact setting as i just described above. We held each other so tight we could hardly breath and cried till we fell asleep. But all i wanted to do was return to that dream one more time. It never happened again.

  39. taylor July 14, 2013 at 11:24 pm - Reply

    Eight years ago my mother commited suicide. I was barley 18,with two young sisters only 10 and 12 when she left. I have had numerous dreams with her in it over the years. But still have so many un answered questions as to why she chose to end her life and leave us. Im going to try these dreamthings and see if she comes to me in a dream to answer my unanswered questions.

  40. glenn b rosemann.. July 15, 2013 at 5:10 pm - Reply

    Hi AT 69 yrs of age Living here in RSA CAPE TOWN… a retired GEM HUNTER///GEMOLOGIST and GEMSTONE CUTTER… 45 yrs of bush hunting gems{{ never Animals}} and around this Planet 4 x s.. Nobody left in my Family///All gone to the Pie in the Sky!! Each one was more sad than the previous one///With each I had some form of sightings but never able to communicate verbally ,,,even though t tried too!! After contracting Malaria and BILLHARZIA in remote dense very hot infected places… In my own dreams i was told even where to go and that certain Doctors would heal me.. //I actually asked the spirtual apparitiion in my dreams if i was going to die!! NO you will be healed was the reply!! It really came to pass 1.5 yrs later!! SOME of my deceased family appear to me //SMILE and vanish// Some show me Buckets of beautiful coloured Gemstones// My late Grandfather appeared saying that he was handsome like the photo on our wall…and he had all his hair!!! I had my mother cremated.. Her request was to have her made up !! and looking lovely after she died…..SO i asked the funeral people to do this for her….Then followed the CREMATION//////6 months later ,,in my dream she appeared and smiled and i could see that her wish was granted////not a word spoken …she vanished and was gone!! MY late Father////thats another chapter of strange visitations on and off…So I have become a sort of Believer now ..trying to connect with my Creator [[not in a Religious way..but in a spritual way.. ..IS there life after death!!! DO angels exist!! can we ask for healing if we are sick!! why do i feel guilty if i harm something or somewone!! I am taking one day at a time now …Minding my own business and avoiding anything aggresive …nasty///,,,or hurtful… or negative ,,and avoid any form of confrontation with other humans.. YOUR belief system is your own business and i stay clear far away from religious fundamentalsism!!! My point being ..we all RICH or POOR Happy or Sad.. GOOD or BAD ,,,heading for the big pie in the sky!! I am hoping that my time of cross over will be a happy one!! Cant take any of the beautiful gems or other lovely things with me //The Egyptians tried and failled //all those mighty big graves have been robbed!! Personally i think there is some kind of connection to the next dimension //some kind of ENERGY exists //and all energy can be positive or negative// I am trying to hold onto positive Energy.. NOT thru my Crystals!! Not thru other humans !! but by feeling such a strong love for all that this Super Natural Energy force //i refer to as Creator of all HEAVEN AND EARTH!! Iwill also meet all my Animal pets that passed thru my life!! {{I hope}} Mabe i can lift your spirit a little by saying very simply…Concentrate on being at peace with yourself firstly!! Walk away from any form of pain and aggression////take one day at a time! BE KIND TO ALL ANIMALS!!! DONT hurt any Animals!! Keep FIT with a relaxing sport!! and if when your time arrives///maybe you will be confronted with a giant big Screen!! your whole existance passes you on that screen //ALL your family are sitting around the screen to welcome you into the next world!! {{ THIS is MY OWN BELIEF}} NO further questions!!

  41. Janet July 20, 2013 at 7:55 pm - Reply

    I don’t want a dream altho i had one soon after he died. It was scary. Since then I’ve been focused on talking to him, dispersing his ashes 6 months after he died and did it just as he had requested. I think he had a hand in my experience with that. I had to travel 4 hours to get to the place and i went there a day before. The day i was leaving the motel to drive up the river, there were 3 random people who inquired as to my well-being. This never happens in my home town. One guy was pumping gas into my car and insisted on engaging me in my state of mind, one was a banker who was so kind, and one was a random guy at the motel who kept asking me was I having a good day. Really, this all was out of the ordinary.

    Recently, I’ve found some random things in my house being placed in places I would never put them. Then, last night, a light was on in a room that I never use. And the light was one that you have to touch the base to make it come on. Is someone being a prankster here? Any thoughts are welcome.

  42. jkrockon July 23, 2013 at 5:45 am - Reply

    I haven’t tried yet, but for some reason I don’t have the pleasure of being visited by my loved one at all. I miss her to death, and wish I could see her again. :’(

    • Sscc0226@aol.com August 10, 2013 at 8:49 pm - Reply

      I believe that your soul knows its too painful yet for yor loved one to visit. Be assured they will when the time is right. God bless.

  43. Teresa Metcalf July 23, 2013 at 1:45 pm - Reply

    If there are any studies being done on these experiences, please contact me. My 19 year old son died weeks ago and my 12 year old daughter, who has had no experience in being visited, is describing fully of him visiting her in her dreams where they fly through buildings and go to the beach, play in the ocean. I have just now become aware of this and will document it.

  44. Teylor Martin July 26, 2013 at 9:31 am - Reply

    My dad passed away about a year ago. The last 4 years we barely talked and we got a little closer the year he passed because I was pregnant and I wanted him to be in my childs life. He died a month before my son was born. His passing hit me harder than I expected and I still feel alot of guilt for not being there for him when he needed me the most. Even though I was there with him in the hospital for his last few days I still feel like it wasn’t enough. A few months ago he visited me in my dream for the first time and he was like the person I use to know instead of how he looked in the hospital. In my dream we spent the day together like everything was normal. He has visited me several times since that dream, but in the first dream it made me feel like i still have my dad in my life just not in the real world. It made me feel alot better!

  45. Erin July 26, 2013 at 1:35 pm - Reply

    The man I was going to marry passed away nearly 8 months ago. About a year before it happened, we had broken up due to his acute alcoholism. Though it wasn’t the direct cause of his death, his addiction was still blameworthy, as he was hit by a car while crossing the street to go to the liquour store. When I first started having dreams about him, he was always drunk. Though it was wonderful to see him again, I always woke up crying, because I didn’t want to think he was still tormented by his addiction, and I hated seeing him in such a state. I still have dreams of him, but I’ve noticed he’s never intoxicated anymore. Now he appears to me in his natural state, as loving and beautiful as he was before he relapsed. I do believe that you can summon a deceased loved one for dream visitation, as I feel I might have done last night. I was standing in a park, and some of his friends were there telling me he was around somewhere. I looked to my left for him, and when I thought he wasn’t going to show up, he appeared to my right, singing my name before he threw his arms around me. For that brief moment before I woke up, I felt I was in Heaven with him. I don’t know if that constitutes a genuine visitation or wishful thinking, but it’s brought me so much happiness.

  46. Sarah July 28, 2013 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    My boyfriend died recently me and him were very close did everything together and planned out future together I struggle getting to sleep at nigr because I miss him so much and when I am asleep he doesn’t even appear in my dreams and I don’t know why he hasn’t visited me yet even though I have tried speaking to him but I see it pointless as he won’t respond back to what I have to say but I just want to know he’s okay and he loves me and misses me I struggle to sleep so much I sleep with his favourite jacket for comfort

  47. Renee August 1, 2013 at 3:55 am - Reply

    My grandfather passed away a little over a month ago. I wasn’t very sad when it happened because as I got older I started to see him less. When I would visit him he would be sitting on his porch drinking or smoking but he died because he got ill after smoking for so many years. When he was alive I couldn’t understand him much, I never knew why. In a dream I had last night my mother, siblings, and I went to my grandmothers house. He was sitting on the porch but looked so healthy and he smiled at me, said something’s I didn’t understand, and called me by my sisters nickname. Then he started to laugh a little. After this dream I woke up feeling more at peace than I have been for a while.

  48. jen August 1, 2013 at 8:36 pm - Reply

    My little brother committed suicide on Christmas day. My mom found him hanging from the tree just a few yards from her bedroom. She tried to revive him but it was too late. The last time I ever saw him was on Christmas Eve. He left my house and I told him goodbye and that I would see him tomorrow at our grandmother’s house. I did not see him being loaded into the ambulance and my mom and husband wouldn’t let me see him when we went to the funeral home to make arrangements and identify the body because I was 8 months pregnant. I have had several dreams about my brother but there are two that I remember well. In one it is extremely sunny and my brother and I were really young. We were running holding hands down our gravel driveway and then we stopped to sit on a rock. We sat for a while and my brother looked at me and asked if I would miss him when he was gone. Before I could answer I woke up. In the other dream my brother was in a glass room. He looked very sick and was dying before my eyes. I tried so hard to open the door to the room but I couldn’t ever open it. I felt so depressed that I could not open the door in time to save him. As a child, I had vivid dreams of my brother in distress and I had to find him and save him. I guess it was because I was so protective of my baby brother. He was my only sibling and I feel I have failed him.

  49. perry August 4, 2013 at 10:15 am - Reply

    I lost my 40 year husband a month back of cardiac arrest. I have a 5 year old son. I want talk to him v badly. pls help me urgently.

  50. Shirley August 5, 2013 at 11:01 am - Reply

    What does it mean when your spouse has died 3 yrs ago comes to visit. I have had this happen several times beside seeing him in my dreams (not always his face) but I know it is him. Several times I have felt my bed move like he is getting in next to me . Last night I felt it again & thought it was my dog scooching up to my back but then I heard her on the floor. Also, a couple of times I have seen him going into his bedroom during the night (we slept in separate bedrooms next door to each other). We had been married for 47 yrs.

  51. Secret hearts01 August 10, 2013 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    I was asleep and in my dream I was in a white room there he was he was just a silver figure but I knew it was him and he reached put his hand out to take me somewhere but when we were an Inch apart I woke up crying with joy. That was 2 years ago. He died 7 years ago I only saw him 3 or 4 times and I was happy when I saw him in my dreams twice.I t has been 7 years since my papa died and I started to think about him more often as I am being haunted by ghosts. They are named alice, allen, and, jonah they are nice but alice scares me in my dreams alot so what should I do!!??

  52. Keiryn August 10, 2013 at 10:23 pm - Reply

    I lost my mother this year on the 3rd of January. I am still confused to her loss, as post med examinations could not confirm ‘exactly’ what had happened to her, leaving me feeling confused and angry. I dream about her constantly. In my dreams she appears to be alive, but not the same mother I had, she is very distant and doesn’t give me any eye contact, almost as if she were avoiding me. I was very close with her, but not sure about any ‘unfinished business’. I had an odd experience this year in which a lizard visited me and stayed and slept under my pillow. I believe it was a sign from her letting me know she is still her. Is there any way to know if she is trying to communicate with me in my dreams?

    • Rachael September 8, 2013 at 8:25 am - Reply

      Don’t feel disheartened that your mother couldn’t look at you, sometimes the deceased find it difficult to appear in dreams and she probably hasn’t got the hang of it yet. I highly recommend the book Call Me When You Get To Heaven, by Jacky Newcomb

  53. William August 11, 2013 at 4:25 am - Reply

    My grandfather passed when I was 14 and Im 31 now. The night before the funeral I dreamed about the repass, my grandfather was sitting in the same chair he always sat in. My family was all there taking pictures eating having a good time and I was the only one that could see him. I walked up to him and he just smiled very big at me and I hugged him. The next day the repass was exactly the same as it was in the dream.
    As a child I was never close to my grandfather but really loved him, he was always depressed and some what in a distraught state of mind. My great grand mother whom Ive never met was known for giving my mother dimes all of the time. Throughout my life I have found dimes in the weirdest places and always think of her- same still goes for my mom she always finds dimes all of the time but we do not know what she is trying to tell us. Yesterday over 15 years since my grandfathers passing I took a mid day nap and he was in my dream however I feel like it was his spirit. It felt as if it was really hard for him to travel to me, he was with a lady whom I did not recognize but she was very nice. In the dream I was getting dressed waiting for my older sister to come for a visit, I looked out of the window and saw her car parked. I was excited and went to tell my boyfriend and brother to open the door bc my sister was here when I opened my bedroom door to call out to them I saw my grandfather standing in the hallway- I was shocked and walked towards the living room to see who was in the apt when I passed him he said “Hello hello do you see me?” I looked back at him and said grandpa is that you? He smiled and I ran to him and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek. It was as if he did not recognize me until I said grandpa. He was wearing a sky blue dress shirt and grey slacks. I felt like he was able to visit me bc of the lady he was with and more so like he was not visiting by my name or title of his grandson but through the blood line. It also felt as if he was on a trip to visit everyone in the blood line and I was not the first nor the last visit he had but maybe one of the only ones that could see him. We talked laughed and he said that it felt so surreal. He looked exactly as I remembered him. It felt so good to see him and in the dream I felt as if he really did love me which is something I struggled with in the past. My eyes opened and I woke up in a peacful state, I brushed my teeth and went to get the phone to call my mom to let her know about the visit. As I walked thru the hallway where I saw my grandfather from the dream I had a body rush of chills and goosebumps from head to toe. A few tears ran down my face as I realized he was still here in my apt, perhaps I woke to soon.

  54. Ingrid August 16, 2013 at 4:43 pm - Reply

    My boyfriend die 20 years ago but I always dream about him holding my hand i always crying n ask him why he left me we kiss n I hug him is so real every dream I have with him i tried to committed suicide just to be with him I miss him I cry everytime I wake up n knowing it was jus a dream his hugs n kisses feel real but i ask him why he left me he say I never did n he hold my hand I miss him so much to me is like he die yesterday I get emotional every time l wake up n cry because it was just a dream I miss him so much n I want to be with him

    • Nikole September 26, 2013 at 4:59 am - Reply

      My boyfriend died October 13th and i had almost the same dream but i had to tell him he was dead IM still very heartbroken next month will be a year. My mom says IM obsessed with him cause i talk about him every day. I finally found the man of my dreams and he’s gone. Sorry for your loss.

  55. Tertbam August 25, 2013 at 9:45 am - Reply

    My 25year old husband died in a sudden tragic accident. I miss him so much words cant express. i even want to suicide so i can be with him again. I dream of him every night…. But it’s usually me trying to call,contact, hang out with him, or trying to express how much he means to me…and instead, he tries to avoid me, run away, say he can’t be with me, refuses to be with me.. And I get a sense he met someone (another girl) and is trying to drop and leave me. I feel so helpless and why doesn’t he want me anymore… Does he not love me anymore? Has he moved on? I wake up feeling so helpless and depressed..

  56. Jennifer October 15, 2013 at 5:29 pm - Reply

    Hello my husband passed while in an induced coma almost 2 years ago
    I dream of him a lot but he is always leaving me or telling me he doesn’t
    Love me anymore it is heartbreaking

  57. goodsoul October 17, 2013 at 11:45 am - Reply

    If a deceased person does not come in our dreams and comes in other persons dreams what does it mean…that he does not luv or care for us or he has some poblems in coming to
    our dreams????

  58. Liz October 18, 2013 at 6:46 pm - Reply

    My mother died a month ago I dream her always sad not happy at times….I wake up so confuse this hurts so bad to not know what she’s trying to tell me please help me understand

  59. Mickey Kolody October 23, 2013 at 7:09 pm - Reply

    My son died from cancer on sept 24 th , I have gone to a medium but I cannot see him , I ask him every night to visit me but he does not . He was only 23 years old. I have to feel or see him help me ,
    Lost mom

  60. Nathalie October 25, 2013 at 5:13 am - Reply

    I always dream of my dad, he died in the hospital 3 years ago of cancer he had a chance to say goodbye individually to each and every one of us. he told me he was proud and that he was happy i was set in a good life. he told me he loved me and to take courage in everything i do and he died that night without us with his sisters he didn’t want us to see him go and he didn’t want to let go. i dream of him all the time on that that hospital bed where he said he never wants to be remembered like this i try so hard to remember him how he is and when he wasn’t sick. I dream of him always on that hospital bed he never speaks to me and i can’t speak to him he looks at me and that’s all i see for hours over and over again, and then i wake up feeling sad and confused on why he’s doing this to me. every time i try and speak nothing comes out.

  61. Rebecca November 4, 2013 at 2:42 pm - Reply

    I had a boyfriend when I was young and we separated for a variety of reasons. He had a drinking problem and I had issues of my own such as anxiety and panic. I left him – feeling overwhelmed but not knowing what to do. He went on a bender and almost died right after that. He pulled through but they had to give him a bunch of blood transfusions and he got Hepatitis C. That was about 30 years ago and I never stopped loving him. He completely stopped drinking, joined AA, started a business with a friend and did well. He married another woman. We reconnected about 10 years ago. I used to get a birthday email from him. We stayed in touch but only rarely. I stayed away out of respect and because I felt a lot of remorse that I hadn’t been strong enough to help him stop drinking before he did so much damage to his liver. Recently, I found – on the Internet – his obituary. I was filled with grief. I asked him to let me know he was okay and that he forgave me. I got a ‘visitation’. It was passionate, beautiful. We made love. I felt deeply bonded to him. Even though it was a dream it seemed totally real. I knew I was in a dream state but I was lucid. I knew this was my love coming because I asked him to. I could feel his arms around me, feel his cheek against mine, feel his weight on my body. I woke up right after – in the middle of the night. I was so happy to know he was ok and not mad at me. And he still loved me. But now, I feel like I’m in love with a ghost. I have all those feelings like when you fall in love – the excitement – the strong desire to be with the person. But I have to keep reminding myself this man is dead. I almost can’t wait to die, as weird as that sounds. I want him. I want to be with him. Is this creepy? I don’t know what to do with these feelings.

  62. Bubs November 17, 2013 at 2:29 am - Reply

    I woke this morning feeling overwhelmed with sadness. Our family pet dog died some 4 years ago the vet said she had cancer even though no tests were done. Eventually we had to help her in her passing and we were all very upset. Well last night was the first time I’d ever dreamt of her , she was so sad. Her head was bowed and she wouldn’t eat her food. In this dream I had gone to my parents house as they were away and had friends looking after her (something in real life they never done) . She just kept her head down and snuggled up to me all sad like. I’m so upset about this. After her death I had read in the paper about dogs becoming poorly after being bitten in the fields by a tick and the symptoms were the same , I felt so guilty that I never pushed for more tests. I feel like we ended her life needlessly. Please help me understand . Many thanks xxx

  63. Sharell Marchan November 22, 2013 at 4:15 pm - Reply

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  64. Denise November 22, 2013 at 11:39 pm - Reply

    My dear dad died of cancer the night of November 7, 2013. I live far away from him and was not able to be there when he died. Fortunately, I had spoken with him by telephone the afternoon of the day he died. I told him I loved him and missed him and soon would be coming to see him, which I fully intended to do. That night, my brother called to tell me Dad had passed, and I then spent the rest of the evening grieving with two of my children and their spouses, who happened to be there with me. When I finally went to bed, I was exhausted but had difficulty sleeping. I spent some time researching life after death on the Internet. I drifted off to sleep and then experienced a very striking dream. I was standing in my front yard attempting to cook out on a warm, sunny day. Suddenly, a tremendous wind surrounded me, seemingly out of nowhere. It blew everything in its path except me. I began to realize my dad was somehow part of this wind, and so I called out to him, “Dad, please don’t go! Please, stay awhile!” Then, almost humorously, I felt more lighthearted as though he was trying to reassure me. In my dream, I stated aloud, “Oh I understand, Dad, you’re just getting the hang of how to do this!” At that instant, I awakened and did not dream anymore of him that night, though since then I have dreamt of him again. This time, he was again sitting in the sun. He looked at me but did not speak. I would appreciate any feedback please on what all of this means because I cannot stop thinking about it.

  65. Tracy P November 24, 2013 at 6:38 am - Reply

    My mother in law passed on Oct 27th 2013 of cancer. She fought so hard and tried to be so strong for the family. We were blessed to have her for 15 months. She went each week for chemo always with a smile on her face. Then the day came when we were told chemo will no longer keep the cancer away. We were faced with the fact that indeed our mother will die sooner than later. We were blessed with care from Hospice. We had so many people that came and helped with the journey she will took. That journey ended on that late October morning with the family around her holding her hand. Before she passesd I asked her if she will come and visit me when she passes and she said everyday. I had a visitation dream of her last night. We were face to face and she was beautiful like she was 20 years ago but she didnt speak to me? I asked her how she was and then I woke up? Why would I not touch her or wait for her to speak to me before I woke up.

  66. Margo December 2, 2013 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    When my mom passed away 2 months ago, I almost had dream of her a few times a week, but after 30 days it stopped. Last night I saw her in my dream sitting across from me at the table. She looked so calm and was always smiling, she was happy to see me. I asked her is she is ok where she is and if feels any pain(she was always in pain throughout her life) and she answered no, not anymore. I remember I hugged her and I felt her warmth like it was so real. I woke up feeling happy and at peace. This dream was a great comfort to me.

  67. Donna Mhae December 6, 2013 at 4:47 am - Reply

    My dad just died a month ago and in my first dream of him he told me that he needs to go. In my next dream i saw him com back alive but he was very ill and hospitalized. Then recently i dreamed of him in a hospital but this time he looked healthy and is smiling. Is there any meaning behind all these?

  68. hassan December 11, 2013 at 12:44 pm - Reply

    i lost my mum three weeks ago and every night i go to bed i just wish i could see her in my dreams

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  70. Tracy January 6, 2014 at 6:55 pm - Reply

    My mother was on Hospice in home and she told everybody she wasn’t gonna give up . She suffered lung cancer for 2 years and the entire time never would say the word cancer. I promised her that I would fight for her life that if she was to be put on a machine I wouldn’t unplug it. Well I was my moms primary care giver and she went into a semi coma and I knelled and prayed that if God was gonna take her please have aunt June there waiting. I stood up put her head in my arms and she took her last breath. I tried CPR I was alone with her when she passed and the EMT were confused because I couldn’t find a DNR because she wasn’t so the Sargent made the final decision. She passed September 25 , Now I finally have dreams of her. This morning My sisters and I were in her apartment taking pics together my mom looked great. but the Hospice nurse comes to the table and says your mom passed 2 days ago. I said no that isn’t right look we have pics we took yesterday and she in them. Then I’m standing by the front door watching my self talking to my mother but she wasn’t there. I don’t remember what was said.Before she died I had a very vivid dream and when I told my mom about it she said that’s where she lived as a kid , My every detail was on target so I went to that home and my mom talked on the phone with the new owner. My mother and I had a similar dream on the same night. We were both in the hospital calling out for each other but could not find each other. I could hear her calling out my name and she could hear me calling out her name but we never found each other.I have quilt,, I should of performed CPR longer and let the EMT revive her as I did promise I would fight for her life. I want her to come into my dream and let me know she is alright and she forgives me.

  71. mark Andersen, January 7, 2014 at 2:18 am - Reply

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  72. Dawn January 7, 2014 at 5:44 pm - Reply

    Hello, I keep dreaming of my late grandpa who passed away this past thanksgiving. I had two dreams about his funeral and in both dreams he awakes from death and passes away again. The last dream he woke up from his coffin yelling “help me”, he had said that many times when he got sick. He suffered from diabetes. Im not sure what he is trying to tell me and would kind of want to know if you can think of what it might mean. Thanks

  73. Michelle January 10, 2014 at 2:22 am - Reply

    My boyfriend was murdered in October. I have had a few strange experiences. I warned him before his passing that I had pictured his funeral that he should part company with the friends he was kerping. But he chose not to and a week later was murdered. Since this I have woke. From a sleeping to see he was lying beside me looking at me and stroking my cheek. Suddenly he disapeared and there in his place was our 1year old daughter. Iv also had a dream of going to an abandoned house where inside was full of owls. Since this dream Iv saw so many symbolisms of owls it’s unbelievable. So I started to look it up. To discover it may be an animal spiritual guide which means death, danger, mystery but also can mean wisdom and visits from a dead loved one.
    Anyone had any similar experiences?

  74. Maria January 10, 2014 at 5:52 pm - Reply

    My mom passed away after a long, courageous battle with metastatic breast cancer. I have three young children, one of whom is 4. She has had several dreams about her “Yia Yia” and she appeared young with brown hair and it was long, suggesting she was much younger instead of the gray-haired 67 year-old woman she was when she passed. In the dreams she was always giving them sweets or permission to have them and she was wearing a rainbow scarf. In life she was always trying to give them sweets. :) These dreams are comforting to me. My mom was my best friend. I have been very sad at times and you are correct in saying that loved ones will come to you if right before going to bed you become very emotional. I prayed every day that she would come to me after she passed away in November. I had my first dream about her on New Years Eve, a time when I was always very connected to her. That night although I couldn’t see her, I talked to her on the phone in my dream and she sounded strong and happy. In the end of her illness her voice had changed as she was overcome with pain. I really want to see her, not just hear her. Is there a way to encourage this and does it mean anything that I haven’t seen her? Thank you for your article. It was very helpful.

  75. Taylor Kowalski January 19, 2014 at 1:54 pm - Reply

    Nearly two years ago when I was 16, my father passed away due to multiple illnesses. It was a complete shock and happened unexpectedly. My family and I all knew he was very ill, but not to the extent to lead to passing. Lately I have been experiencing reoccurring dreams involving him. The most common deals with me finding myself back in the hospital he passed away in, but he seems to overcome his illnesses. Occasionally he will talk to me explaining that he’s healthy and whole, giving me a smile that I miss dearly. Another frequent dream, more like nightmare, involves me seeing him deceased and I am in denial of this occurring. I experience anger and hurt. Any dreams I have of him I wake instantly with a feeling of a presence in my room with me. I have had multiple others, but these are the most vivid. I don’t know much about visitation dreams, but I’ve been trying to understand, thinking that is what these may be. Just looking for help. Any responses would be appreciated?

  76. mag January 20, 2014 at 3:53 pm - Reply

    thank you so much for your comments, they help me (and everyone here) so much!
    My mom passed July 28, 2013. It has been a nightmare. She did dialisys for 9 years, but we NEVER think our mom will die.
    From one day to the other she felt pains and died, in hospital.
    Fortunately I always tried to hold her and make her happier and happier, but I´ve cried almost everyday since he passed…

    I dreamed of her 2 months after her passing: she was walking along the corridor and went to a back room where she used to stay during her last months, resting, seeing photos, and praying. I rushed after her and hold her, so tenderly, but she seemed not to be aware she had deceased!

    She hold me back and said “oh, you cry too much!”.

    Then she kept very “normal” and told me she had been in a hospital for 1 month.

    That was all.

    it seems she is not well yet…

    I think she is finding it difficult to contact me because I´m so sad yet…

    What do you think?

  77. sharon January 20, 2014 at 9:39 pm - Reply

    my girlfriend hung herself 3 years ago because her friend was murdered, and i dream,t i was sat at a table in a old flat i used to live in years before i met her,, and in my dream i was sat there at the table staring out the window which was right opposite where i was sat and i was waiting for her,she came and stood beside me with another girl that was stood behind her, and said ” i have to go now ” and inside i felt upset and confused at to how distant she was with me, i couldnt understand why she seemed different with me to what she was like with me when she was alive,, and this dream has bothered and upset me now for nearly 3 years

  78. B January 25, 2014 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    My grandmother died when i was 18 years old. My mother called me and told me that my grandmother was very ill and that she was going to go see her. she flew out the next day she lives in chicago and I lived in texas i was about 18 hour buss ride to my grandma so i decided to take the 18hour buss ride and a very scenic ride it was going into mexico driving over the mountains and desserts..I arrived there and my mom went to pick me up she was with my aunt, cousins and my lil sister. the next day i went with my cousins to see my grandmother and she was in her bed laying down with a tremendous pain that i could see through her look. she stared at me as i sat right across from her she looked at my mother and said whose that ? the last time my grandma saw me i was 10 or 11 years old she came to take care of me and my little sister as my mother was battling cancer. she stayed with us for many months and my grandpa as well. back than i was shorter, and much more chunkier she couldn’t believe that it was me. my mother told her thats mikey mom my son and she looked at her said ” but he use to be so fat” and at 18 i was skinny. i laughed about it and told her i grew up grandma in the room there was some very distant relatives i had never meet till that day and my older sisters son was in the room. we all prayed and my grandmother looked like she was in alot of pain. i kissed her and told her goodbye i couldn’t bare to keep watching her my mother stayed an sat right next to her the whole time. I went in the other room and my grandpa was sitting down on the couch and he too was very surprised on how much i had grown up since the last time he saw me. he asked me so many questions about my life and my ambitions. at the time i was just turned 18 i didn’t exactly knew what i wanted to study. i was pretty much going through a hard partying stage. i left back to my home in texas two or three days later. and a month or so later i got the phone call that my grandma passed away. I’m 21 now still in school and have been recovering from PTSD and Depression (not from my grandma but other issues) and for the first time my grandma visited me last night. before I went to bed i had this odd feeling as if i was being watched, i woke up actually two times before i went back to sleep and was in dream land. In dream Land i was a kid again an i saw my brothers an sisters as kids too we were all running around and i turned and there was my grandma watching us. I was surprised to see her I ran to her and hugged her so tight and i told her all of the things that i had accomplished so far as an adult and she looked at me so happy and i don’t really remember what she said but all i could feel was safety and love. she took my hand and gave me some money well some coins half american the other half mexican currency. ( when she was alive everytime she came to visit us the day before she left or that day she would always give me money sometimes in mexican currency to encourage me to go visit some time soon ) I woke up in my real life got up like usually and when i came back to my bedroom on my bed right where i was sleeping i found one penny and one peso ( mexican currency) impossible! i haven’t had mexican currency in years! i was in total shock the rest of the day as i was remembering my dream of her. it was so beautiful i got to be a kid again and see my grandma and tell her my accomplishment as an adult from a child. now i know i have student loans, hospital bills, all kind of collectors calling me and i’ve been stressing over. my mother told me that that was her telling me not to worry about my financial situation that money is coming my way. i feel now at ease and peacefull and idk if she will ever visit me again but i hope its not soon because the next time i want to tell her even more of my accomplishments in life! god blessings. I saved the two coins and put them with all my important papers so i never misplace it.

  79. Cam January 29, 2014 at 10:46 pm - Reply

    When I was 6 my grandfather (dad’s dad) passed away due to lung cancer. Up until his sickness he took care of me and made sure I had everYthing I needed. He was more like my father. We were close and he spoiled me rotten. Over thr years I have thought about him and missed him dearly. I am 22 note and a month ago was the first time I ever dreamed of him. I could feel him I could smell him. We were in a room that was red like a restaurant or something. And I remember him telling me everything was going to be ok and he was going to take of me. And I remember crying. When I woke up I even cried. Because at the time I needed some reassurance and I know he is one of my guardian angels based off a psychic reading I had gotten last summer. Everything felt so real…..

  80. MATA February 1, 2014 at 12:14 am - Reply

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  81. Steph February 3, 2014 at 10:26 am - Reply

    I had a good friend who commided suicide about a month ago. He shoot himself in the head. I had a dream that he was scared and needed help. I didnt see him do it or see his body after but in my dream I saw what he looked like after. It was not a pleasant dream but a terrifying experience. I woke up horiffied and confused. Is he really stuck? Does he need help and he is reaching to me? Or am i just grieving? Please someone tell me what I should do..

  82. Grace February 4, 2014 at 2:55 pm - Reply

    Three months ago my friend committed suicide, myself along with two other friends found him in his shed. Over the last week and a halfive had a dream out him every night, but he is diseased in all these dreams. For example we’re sitting at his grave or something. Last night I had a dream and he walked up the street I drove past and realised it was him. In my dream no one else could see him apart from me and I think his dad who was parked behind us. I looked out the door when we pulled up and he was walking out the front of the takeaway shop towards us, he looked happy. Big smile on his face. I yelled out ‘oi’ but he kept walking, I yelled out ‘come back!’ But it was almost as if he couldn’t hear me. And everyone was like who are you talking to? I looked back at his dad and he had this really sad look on his face but was understanding what I just seen. I burst into tears and everyone asked me what was wrong, then I ran across the road and his mum ran up to me, I hadn’t told her what happened but somehow she knew exactly what did. I started crying while she hugged me then I went into a shop and a few friends that were in there asked me what happened, I told them and they asked what he was wearing, I described it perfectly. He had black suit pants, a white top and it was like what he wore to one of my friends parties a few weeks before he passed. I just wanna know what this means?

  83. Valery February 5, 2014 at 7:32 am - Reply

    My first love died from a motor cycle accident a few months ago. It still hurts me to this day and I wish I could have said goodbye and that I love him. I have so many regrets. Lastnight I had a dream that I called his phone and he answered! I was so shocked, I said wait, aren’t you dead? Lol and he told me that it is so beautiful up here. And that the sun is shining and it is so warm and that the food taste so good, pure, and whole. Haha he did love food. I hope to have many more dreams like this. Made me so happy to hear his voice again. :)

  84. Nandini Srivastava February 6, 2014 at 3:39 am - Reply

    I lost my mother recently. She was suffering from Cancer. Three months back, when doctors sent her to palliative care, I saw my late maternal grand mother (who also died of Cancer ), standing next to my ailing mother in the dream. Can you help clear my doubt, was that a sign of my late grand mother visiting to take my dying mom ??

  85. helen February 10, 2014 at 4:49 am - Reply

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  86. Check Shyong Quek February 11, 2014 at 12:04 am - Reply

    I am a Christian and did not believe this 40 days visitation until my mum passed away last month. The first week or during the 9 days after her passing, there were signs that she came to visit me by unmistakable smells and fragrance. The first one was the unmistakable smell of my mother with her skin moisturizer; the second one was the same smell plus fragrance of a flower which I did not really know what kind of flower it was. The third time which lasted the longest, about 6 to 8 seconds was totally the fragrance of the flower which was a strong fragrance. The next day I went to my friend’s house and his friend who was staying with him got to know about this and went to my friend’s garden and brought back some flowers which is JASMINE and it was exactly 100% the fragrance I experienced the night before. After that, I am a total believer in this 40 day-visitation. My church actually forbids us to believe in all this and told us that the soul sleeps after death until resurrection day but now I Know this is not true – the soul does visit their loved-ones and give signs to try to comfort them. I am comforted by the signs but I am still in great agony because the loss is real in a physical sense where I could not see her physically anymore and I do not have the chance anymore to care for her, cook for her, wash her laundry, buy her favourite foods, etc.. And now that she is gone, I only realized that it was a privilege and enjoyment to serve her while she was alive because we enjoyed talking to each other very much and she was always there for me no matter what! And I will always remember that My Mother is the only person in the world that truly loves me unconditionally.

  87. fee February 22, 2014 at 6:01 am - Reply

    I had two different experiences in one dream had a.dream my brother died the funeral was packed but it was real difficult for me n my other siblings n mom to get to the front of the service or see the casket the scene.changed.with me n my.siblings instead of mother now my.husband trying to.get to the funeral its know snow and ice everywhere scene change again now we at my mom.house my siblings are.in my mom room my.mom go outside empty.trash the livingroom.lights are.out i walk pass livingroom window and see a hand i get scarred run and tell my siblings what i.saw i go back to.livingroom turn on light i see nothing i turn off light i.see the.hand.again but this time its.gesturing for.me to come and follow i run and tell my siblings they respond oh its only Scott which is my dead nephew who commited suicide a year ago then i.wake up

  88. lupita February 23, 2014 at 7:43 pm - Reply

    I lost my husband 4 months ago. I have dreams where I see him happy like he still a live doing things we use to do together in one dream he look up me and I told him you die he was sad, I like having him in my dreams give me comfort I am missing him so much.

  89. Shannon February 24, 2014 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    A very close family friend died 3 weeks ago today. She was 41 and had a sudden and massive stroke that no one saw coming. I visited her grave on the weekend and told her she was welcome to visit me any time and she did last night in my dream. We were sitting in her patio area and i was in tears because i knew she was dead but she just spoke to me calmly. i know we had a long conversation, particularly about my grief and looking after her husband and 12 year old daughter, but i cant remember exactly what was said. Is there anyway i can recall what she said to me?

  90. GG February 25, 2014 at 8:57 am - Reply

    Hi,
    My husband passed away 5 months ago. Ever since I always dream about him. The first week he was mad & he wanted to take me. Now my dreams are weird.. I dream like we are making a living in my dreams. I dream of him every single day.

  91. Emiliano Babarah February 26, 2014 at 6:28 pm - Reply

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  92. Destiny February 26, 2014 at 11:44 pm - Reply

    I use to be able to have visitation dreams but I’ve lost connection with it. I do have feelings of death before someone dies. I want to get back into touch with visitation dreams. There are so many questions I want answered from a special someone. It’s amazing how little of a time frame you know someone, but their energy draws you in and you feel a bit of a connection. And the small amount of time you get to have with them on earth is sickening and depressing.

  93. Crystal March 4, 2014 at 7:26 am - Reply

    My aunt had a dream that my grandmother was holding a baby girl. My grandmother died a little over a year ago. Does that mean I’m having a girl?

    • Check Shyong Quek March 5, 2014 at 9:29 pm - Reply

      Dear Crystal, yes! definitely! Your case is similar to my friend’s whose deceased mother told him twice in his dreams that she was coming back and also once to his brother. And sure enough, his brother’s wife gave birth to a girl. Shows that we know so little about the spirit world and they definitely command our respect.

  94. Mark N. March 5, 2014 at 10:31 pm - Reply

    I lost the love of my life/soul mate on February 12, 2014 due to complications from asthma and pneumonia. She was hospitalized Jan 6, 2014 and kept getting worse. She was intubated on Jan 20, 2014 and I never spoke with her again. I love her so completely in ways that can’t be described only felt. I was afraid to lose her and the last day we spoke I didn’t say much to her.
    We loved each other but I don’t think she understood exactly how much she meant to me. From Jan 20 onward I was wreck every day. I cried, and still do, every night and now that she’s gone I’m missing a huge part of myself.
    I dreamt of her last night and she was happy, smiling, and joking with her mom. In the dream I knew she was gone and she told me that I needed to come and say goodbye. I prayed the night before that I could have the chance to say goodbye properly. i couldn’t say goodbye because I don’t know how to let her go. I knew in the dream that she meant that she was about to move on for good. I love this woman with every fiber of my being and I don’t know If I have the courage to let her go. I love you Liz and I will die loving you. My mind, body, heart, and sould belong to you.

  95. Liz March 6, 2014 at 7:09 am - Reply

    A re a curing dream I have is of my grandmother she come to me in my dreams and we are doing every day life stuff and I have this over whelming feeling she’s back and she acts as though nothing had ever happened. She always smiles and hugs me and that’s all I can ever Remeber from the dreams. Right now though I’m going to the hospital for a few days with my mom to go see my grandfather other side of the family for my grandma. And he’s dying I know he is. He was put in Hypa thermia state and sedated and medically paralized because he was shocked six times in one day because he has arithmia and a part of his heart is dead and main artery 100 percent blocked off. Now they have brought him back to normal body temp but he’s still sedated… He was shocked six more times yesterday. I dreamt last night that he opened his eyes and told me to tell my Mother to let him go he just wants to go. His blue eyes were hazed over. And almost haunting.

  96. Reg March 7, 2014 at 12:28 am - Reply

    A few of years ago my best friend passed away. We hadn’t been in touch for years due to the fact we had just drifted in different directions. We had a very special bond as we had gone through school together, played in bands together, grown from boys to men. We even joined the British army within 6 months of each other although in different regiments. So I lives seem to run parallel. Then I heard he had been taken very ill and had not long to live, it was then that I needed to see him, however his family said that he was so ill and didn’t want to see anybody. This upset me and a day later he died. I went to his funeral and I got really upset with all the memories flooding back and in spite of the lack of contact I felt like a big part of me had died.
    His son told me that he was aware I had asked to see him but Chris didn’t want me to see him like he was and wanted me to remember him as he was. That gave me some relief that he knew I wanted to be there.

    In the early hours of this morning I had a dream and in this dream I was in a garden tending to some plants when I smelt a familiar faint smell from way back, as I looked up it was my friend Chris. When I stood up I touched him he was warm and so real I know it was him. He didn’t say anything he just had this half smile on his face. I said “What happened to you I thought you were dead. I told him how many tears I had cried over him. He still didn’t say anything, He just smiled. Then reality kicked in I knew he had gone and then he just vanished.
    At that point I woke up my eyes full of tears feeling glad that for a magic brief moment he was real, alive and with me, and then so sad that he never ever will be ever again.

    I feel very upset at the moment so much so I started to search the internet for answers, hence this blog. I do not believe that it wasn’t a chemical reaction in my brain, and I hadn’t been thinking about him.
    I know it was Chris and that he came to see me just to let me know that he is OK.

  97. Tammy March 11, 2014 at 10:46 am - Reply

    I lost my dad June 30th 2013 to cancer. It started as colon cancer that had spread to his liver that eventually spread to his lungs. He fought a good fight for a little over a year before his decline. Slowly, we watched his health go down and from talking and walking to nothing at all. It was very hard. I keep having vivid dreams of him where he is back but he’s still very sick and I’m losing him all over again. It feels so real, it hurts. I don’t know why I keep having these dreams but they break my heart each time I have them.

  98. Crystal March 11, 2014 at 7:29 pm - Reply

    I have a question, 4 months ago on 11-12-13 my boyfriend of almost 2 years passed away very unexpectly at 27 of a stroke. He was a tow truck driver and on that Tuesday he was coming home from finishing a tow, he had pulled over at mini mart I’m guessing to get something to drink, but never got out of his truck, the stoke hit him right then and he died. That morning we had gotten in a tiff because of his work schedule, so we went most the day with out talking. I was going to leave work that day early cause I felt like I was getting sick, I noticed he called me at 3:00, I called him back at 3:30, and waited for him to call back. I went home and ended up falling asleep, only to wake up to see he did not call or text. I text a few times but thought he had gone to a friends house cause he was upset with our tiff, so I layed back down thinking he would call. The next morning I got a call from his best friend/ business partner saying he got a call from the mini mart saying to come get the truck they left in front of their store. His friend found him dead!! I never got to say good bye, or I love you and I’m left with so many unanswered questions. I have had 2 dreams of him since he passed 1 were he asked over and over if I missed him and 2 that he called me on the phone told me not to worry about the people who have been bringing me down and “remember me” I’m so lost as what to think about theses dreams, I’m not sure how to take them! Please, I could use help

  99. Vicki March 13, 2014 at 1:58 am - Reply

    My son passed away in March of 2013. Yesterday was the anniversary of his death. I’ve been waiting for some sign that he is with me, and he has not appeared in a dream. I am very depressed. There are no grief counselors where I live. He (Ty) had lived with me for 8.5 years after a car accident that left him totally paralyzed. I miss him so much and cry every night. I cannot deal with this pain.

  100. Brian March 19, 2014 at 5:14 am - Reply

    I’ve have 2 different very vivid dreams of my father that recently passed in Jan. The first was as if I were walking on a sidewalk just after the evening. As I walked I saw my dad co.ing towards me. He appeared healthy as if he wasn’t even injured in the war. As he approached me, we stopped and spoke off of the sidewalk in a small corridor. I can’t remember our conversation by we hugged a lot and he smiled. The dream ended as I woke up in tears. The second was strange and also vivid a few days later. I was in a church with my mother and we were at a strange funeral service for him. As it concluded, the priest wanted us to look out the window for his glowing spirit to rise to heaven. We only saw stars in a strange formation.
    Are these dreams normal or am I simply going nuts?

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  102. James March 26, 2014 at 5:06 am - Reply

    My dad passed in 08 and he was diabetic. He had a rough stretch with dialysis and before he could get his kidney transplant, which kept getting delayed, he died in his sleep one night kind of unexpectedly. What I mean is he was sick but not deathly to where we were expecting it. I had an urge to stop by his place the night he

  103. James March 26, 2014 at 6:31 am - Reply

    My dad passed in 08 and he was diabetic. He had a rough stretch with dialysis and before he could get his kidney transplant, which kept getting delayed, he died in his sleep one night kind of unexpectedly. What I mean is he was sick but not deathly to where we were expecting it. I had an urge to stop by his place the night he passed but didn’t. Weird because I didn’t just do that much, as far as stopping by random. When my phone rang at 5:00am the next day, I instantly sat straight up in bed from a dead sleep and the first thing I thought was “my dad died”. My wife got up and answered the phone and she came in the room and said that my dad had just died. I had no emotion but was scared and confused on how I knew the split second the phone rang, that my dad was not with me in the physical form any longer. After his passing the dreams started, about 1 to 2 months later. I would run into him somewhere and get so excited at the sight of him which was as clear as if he was there face to face with me. I would say first “I knew you were not really dead”. Then I would talk to him and try to get as much in as possible and he would just smile at me as he would before with this proud look on his face that made me always feel like I was his greatest accomplishment in life and make me feel so amazing. But after a bit, he would slowly leave somehow and I had no control. They happened quite frequent the first year after his death then faded to less often and now they happen very rarely. But it helped me to let him go and I still wish I could have them but instead I just talk to him while awake from time to time.

    My grandmother passed 5 years later. She was the mother of my dad. She died exactly 5 years later to the day! She was sooooooo close with my dad. Really hurt her when he passed. But it was as if she hung on until the day he died to let go. They couldn’t believe she stayed with us the week of her last and were saying she had a lot of fight in her. She had lung cancer and was on keemo for 3 years after they told her she had only 6 months originally. She was tired of the treatment and when she told family about it she didn’t really get to far because they would just interrupt her and give her the new cures they found or whatever they had came up with from the internet. I talked with her very often and when I asked her “what do YOU want to do?” She said she was done with the meds and being sick. She just wanted to feel good and not be so tired and sick from the strong drugs she was being given which had a big effect on her but kept her there. Mainly there for other people being selfish and not being able to let her go. I told her I would let them know this is what she wanted when she brought it up next time and I would basically act as her backup to help enforce her wishes. We did just that and gramps , her husband, did not respond well and suggested other treatments and other family kind of did the same. I made my rounds and explained its selfish of us to tell her what to do and they shouldn’t make her feel guilty for choosing this. One by one they said they agree with it and I had her put on hospice. I asked her if she wanted me to speak for her behalf as far as decisions on her go and we agreed that would be the right way between the two of us only. We Kept this agreement private. Only her, my wife and I knew of this. She also wanted my wife to care for her because she really loved her and they had a very strong bond. Something that was very amazing. I think it was also because I had a very strong bond with my grandmother and was raised by her for a long period. As well as raised by my mom and dad who were divorced. I just lived with grandma for most of my life. She treated me as if I was the most favorite person in her life. I was the very first grand kid by the way. Nothing against my cousins or siblings but she had a unique bond with me. More so than any other grand kids and even all of her other close loved ones. I had a special place for her as well. She was just basically an angel that walked among us and I was blessed to have her as my nana. She was my real life guardian angel. I miss her so much and want to just here her laugh more than anything in the world one more time. As she was going through hospice, my wife did a great and amazing job taking care of her. Her other sons wife, who resented my nana and was jealous of her for some reason was trying to say she would move in to take care of her at first. Kind of strange for her to suggest this and my nana did not want it that way but was just too sweet to tell somebody no. I asked nana if she wanted this and she just frowned and shook her head no so I told her I would see to it that my wife would do it and I would do it in a way that was very discreet and not problematic. My family kind of looked at me as the screw up from my generation but I was actually the most independent and was not a bad man. Just was a crazy kid but always took care of the ones around me as my nana did. This is why I had myself put as the one to make decisions for nana when she needed so. I also just backed her wish instead of outside influence. When hospice would ask her things, she would answer them but would get family telling her to do different. I explained to hospice the situation and I would talk to them personally on the phone and give them the choices she truly wanted. All of this without anyone knowing the entire time but me, my wife and my nana. Since I was such a bad seed to the family, I helped all this to play out as nana wished but stayed in the background. Doing all that needed to be done but at the same time, ridiculed for not helping or not being a good man as far as the family was concerned. Nana would smile when my wife would show up in the morning from ear to ear and then be soooooo sad to see her go when it was time for bed. Her husband, grandpa, was trying to help her to not get addicted to the morphine so she could be weened off easier when she was better. He just didn’t get that she was on a one way trip at this point and could not grasp that. She would get in sooooo much pain by morning due to lack of meds that we were playing catchup all day and I finally got him to realize that she needed them as I had written on the schedule I made which had a signature and dose spot for her med and the time we had given it to her to help with making sure she did not get too little or too much. Which was a problem because some people wanted to do it and not let my wife just do it herself to avoid the confusion. I fixed that by the way too. The hospice nurse randomly mentioned that my wife should do it and only her to do this the right way. My wife and I made the perfect team and nana would not want it any other way. Finally my wife started staying there during the week and the kids and I visited almost every second. When the time came, I was getting questioned for the dosage I was now giving her myself. I was doing what the nurse had told would work and what I know made her comfortable which was obvious to me because I saw her daily. At one point I said to my uncle “here, you do this one for her” he just stopped from his suggestions of how to do it right and shook his head no. Guess he realized it wasn’t as easy to do once he was given the option. She would not talk because she was very weak but would smile when me, my wife, and my son talked to her and even nod slightly. They would try to take her teeth out and she would try to bite their fingers off. Lol. Even my wife would get the bite if she tried. I would just laugh because she hated having them out and I knew that. I would do it for her and tell her not to worry, I will see to it nobody comes near your teeth and she just smiled after having a mean frown from the previous attempts. When the day came to, I knew she had been waiting for this. The day my dad passed. I sat with her and said as I had days before. Nana, you can go. It’s ok. I’ll be fine and I will see to it that all the family will. Except this day I said, “well, you made it. It’s the day you’ve been holding on for. I love you and go with my dad now. Your son. He’s waiting for you”. She would not go though. I couldn’t figure it out. Everyone was there. They all gave there blessing to her but what was it? I asked her what else she was waiting for. What do you need me to do nana. Then my close friend stopped by and talked with me. I was tired from being there 24/7 for the last week or so and decided to drive to his house which was a :30 second drive from nana. Just wanted to get some space for 10 minutes and come right back. As soon as I got to his house my phone rang. Instantly, I knew. Nana was gone. I answered with tears already waiting to fall. My wife said to me she was gone. I thought I was caring for her in the end but no. She was waiting for me to leave so I didn’t witness it. I walked in the room once I got back to her which was under a minute and when I saw this angel I called nana laying there and everyone was balling out of control, I could only smile. I just smiled and walked to her as they all moved out of my way and said “I love you sooooo much. You got me again. You had to watch over me one last time even on your death bed.” Here I thought I was the one caring for her. I kissed my wife and told her thank you for all you’ve done for my angel and left the room because I knew where she now was. I have not had any dreams of her as I did my dad and wish I would. Is this telling me something? I just want to see her once and tell her how amazing she is and how much I admire her. I think I’ve moarned her but not sure. Her and my dad were the only two people that made me feel like I was a special person and not just some screw up. They could see my talents and really appreciate them. They helped me to feel so proud for who I was. I feel as if I have nobody to talk to and nobody to give me that pat on the back that helps all of us from time to time. I guess she made me feel special. I don’t feel that anymore. I don’t know. How do I feel as though I did with her and my dad and feel like I have no worries and that I can do anything I put my mind to? I feel like I’ve stopped my emotions and drive the day I lost the other half to my two favorite people. My wife is amazing and I am thankfull for every day I have her with me. As well as my two children. It’s just that I’m missing something. Every time I hear “somewhere over the rainbow” I think of you nana. I miss you and love you so much. Goodbye my angel. Take care of dad and tell him I said hi.

  104. Cheri Diehl April 13, 2014 at 4:16 pm - Reply

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